4.13.11 Adam News & Info
Apr 13, 2011 20:17:47 GMT -5
Post by rabbitrabbit on Apr 13, 2011 20:17:47 GMT -5
I agree with wonderstruck and chunkeymonkey that a pile on without finesse and without leaving the original poster a face-saving out or ability to backtrack gracefully while leaving their ego relatively intact, just engenders bad feeling.
I thought the original tweet could be interpreted as:
a) toenail painting led to Adam being gay and "flamboyant"
b) Adam's mom let him dress up/play w/ makeup as a kid for fun (which she did), and look, he still paints his toenails! tee hee!(nothing about his sexuality or gender identity implied)
c) or the ironic eyeroll interpretation based on the original article.
Reading the guys feed didn't offer a lot of clues as he was tweeting DragRace contestants in a friendly way, but also admitted to intending to stir things up with his tweets.
But assuming b) or as Adam did, tweeting that he was just opening a discussion, allowed him to have a really positive view of Adam, and fans who later approached him positively got him to agree to some Adam spins the next day.
Not saying we shouldn't use fandom power, we totally should, but use it in a smart, strategic way to get people on your side and allow them to change their tune gracefully.
I try to be a ninja, not a boxer.
BTW: Some of the most negative tweets (the @cxxx one copied) were intended for the other DJ Brad Walsh was fighting with. That tweeter apologized to the first DJ after she realized her mistake.
That raises the question, what if the person is clearly homophobic and digging in? The second DJ complaining about being persecuted for being homophobic hid their twitter after intense back and forths with people. Does that change his mind? No, most likely he is more entrenched then ever. Could his mind have been opened a bit with a less passionate but still logical approach by some of his responders? Dunno.
I thought the original tweet could be interpreted as:
a) toenail painting led to Adam being gay and "flamboyant"
b) Adam's mom let him dress up/play w/ makeup as a kid for fun (which she did), and look, he still paints his toenails! tee hee!(nothing about his sexuality or gender identity implied)
c) or the ironic eyeroll interpretation based on the original article.
Reading the guys feed didn't offer a lot of clues as he was tweeting DragRace contestants in a friendly way, but also admitted to intending to stir things up with his tweets.
But assuming b) or as Adam did, tweeting that he was just opening a discussion, allowed him to have a really positive view of Adam, and fans who later approached him positively got him to agree to some Adam spins the next day.
Not saying we shouldn't use fandom power, we totally should, but use it in a smart, strategic way to get people on your side and allow them to change their tune gracefully.
I try to be a ninja, not a boxer.
BTW: Some of the most negative tweets (the @cxxx one copied) were intended for the other DJ Brad Walsh was fighting with. That tweeter apologized to the first DJ after she realized her mistake.
That raises the question, what if the person is clearly homophobic and digging in? The second DJ complaining about being persecuted for being homophobic hid their twitter after intense back and forths with people. Does that change his mind? No, most likely he is more entrenched then ever. Could his mind have been opened a bit with a less passionate but still logical approach by some of his responders? Dunno.
