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Post by crazylady on Feb 22, 2011 14:24:57 GMT -5
" My job is to make this look easy and fun. That’s the illusion, the vibe I’m trying to create for people to feel. That’s what I want to do as an entertainer, create a mood that rubs off on people. This is scary, and it is a lot of work. And I’m OK, I’ll be fine. But, wow, this is a lot. And I hope that people are compassionate about that. I took a chance, stepped my life up a little, have some opportunities, have a little money, and I’m doing the best I can. I’m doing the best I fucking can, you know?" (http://www.out.com/detail.asp?page=3&id=26192) And to have that quote in your magazine--to have someone be so honest and open with you--and then hit him with that letter......grrrrrr.....(and I'm sure one of the lessons Adam learned, for better or for worse, was to be much more guarded in future interviews than he was in this one)... but this is all water under a very very distant bridge. I bring it up only because we have all variously been remarking in recently weeks (Adam included) about how increasingly comfortable Adam seems with his situation now--how he's settling into his role and his fame and seems confident and happy and ready for next, and it really strikes me, looking back at this quote at that nervous moment in his career, how very very good the "best that I can" was for Adam--he did SOOO good--and he's earned the comfort and respect he has now tenfold. Hard work and genuineness pays. --always love it when you have time to pop in and post; like others here, I so admire your ability to express yourself so well and to the point (something I lack most of the time). Adam certainly succeeded in making GNT look fun and easy and he most definitely created a vibe that rubbed off on us and not just during the concert. He gave us his best every night and it makes me so proud of him to see his hard work, genuineness, and "the best I can" pay off. He deserves to be where he is right now and I'm so glad I tuned in to Idol 2 years ago. Cannot imagine not ever having the opportunity to experience AFL. |
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Post by Coconutgrove0 on Feb 22, 2011 14:36:40 GMT -5
" My job is to make this look easy and fun. That’s the illusion, the vibe I’m trying to create for people to feel. That’s what I want to do as an entertainer, create a mood that rubs off on people. This is scary, and it is a lot of work. And I’m OK, I’ll be fine. But, wow, this is a lot. And I hope that people are compassionate about that. I took a chance, stepped my life up a little, have some opportunities, have a little money, and I’m doing the best I can. I’m doing the best I fucking can, you know?" (http://www.out.com/detail.asp?page=3&id=26192) And to have that quote in your magazine--to have someone be so honest and open with you--and then hit him with that letter......grrrrrr.....(and I'm sure one of the lessons Adam learned, for better or for worse, was to be much more guarded in future interviews than he was in this one)... but this is all water under a very very distant bridge. I bring it up only because we have all variously been remarking in recently weeks (Adam included) about how increasingly comfortable Adam seems with his situation now--how he's settling into his role and his fame and seems confident and happy and ready for next, and it really strikes me, looking back at this quote at that nervous moment in his career, how very very good the "best that I can" was for Adam--he did SOOO good--and he's earned the comfort and respect he has now tenfold. Hard work and genuineness pays. --always love it when you have time to pop in and post; like others here, I so admire your ability to express yourself so well and to the point (something I lack most of the time). Adam certainly succeeded in making GNT look fun and easy and he most definitely created a vibe that rubbed off on us and not just during the concert. He gave us his best every night and it makes me so proud of him to see his hard work, genuineness, and "the best I can" pay off. He deserves to be where he is right now and I'm so glad I tuned in to Idol 2 years ago. Cannot imagine not ever having the opportunity to experience AFL. good article |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2011 14:40:37 GMT -5
Sorry to interrupt the deep discussion, but since I tend to dwell in the shallow end a lot, just want to repost, from a few weeks ago, a pic of a very well thought out sleeve and tattoos.   |
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Post by aspen on Feb 22, 2011 14:40:55 GMT -5
MWP
"SO every time Adam uses a word like lifestyle or preference I stuff down the knee-reaction cringe that my liberal, politically-attuned world has trained me to feel, and instead smile at it as a celebration of his choices: to shape his life and his persona exactly as he wants them, to love whomever he wants to love for the right, personal reasons, to escape any boxes whatsoever. Even if he is as gay as dancing rainbow-glitter leprechaun"
I don't know how to respond to just part of a post so the above is from MWP. I've thought about Adam's choice of words, too, but there are not too many ways to say the same thing with the "born this way" fact without sounding like a victim of something. It is out of his control, but I think, without over-analyzing it, that it refers more to accepting it and embracing who you are with the preference being to live life to the fullest instead of wallowing in self-pity and embarrassment because you know you are different. A friend of mine was so insecure about his orientation that he actually got engaged to a girl before I knew him, then when he was living with someone, insisted they move out of a lovely neighborhood because he was uncomfortable with the heterosexual majority. It wasn't anything anyone esle did, it was his own perception of the situation. They ended up buying a house in the suburbs that was very separate from the other houses so when he went to the mailbox or pulled out of the driveway there was no one jogging by or pushing a stroller. He never felt persecuted, just insecure. It was very sad.
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Post by murly on Feb 22, 2011 14:42:28 GMT -5
I've never really understood why the word "preference" is said to imply choice. I like chocolate-chip cookies better than peanut-butter cookies, so it's perfectly reasonable for me to say that I prefer chocolate-chip cookies, isn't it? I don't choose to prefer chocolate chip. It's not as if I could prefer peanut butter if I just put my mind to it.
People might prefer the color red to the color green, or prefer cats to dogs, or prefer sneakers to loafers, and none of those preferences are a matter of choice. You like what you like. I guess the fact that some preferences can change during a person's life (as a kid I hated onions and now I like them) is what makes some suspicious of the word when applied to sexual orientation, but I still think that the idea of "choice" doesn't enter into it. I didn't make a choice to start liking onions; it just happened when I got older. I couldn't choose to start disliking them again. Am I making sense or just rambling? :-/
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2011 14:46:19 GMT -5
But what word or words would better fit into a conversation or interview when Adam is discussing his sexuality? It seems to me, preference and lifestyle are being over analyzed by the gay and lesbian community. My preference is to be straight, but I didn't choose it. How would he phrase it without using either word, is my question? He says over and over again, "I am gay." That's about as blunt and right to the point as one can be.
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Post by midwifespal on Feb 22, 2011 14:51:23 GMT -5
I've never really understood why the word "preference" is said to imply choice. I like chocolate-chip cookies better than peanut-butter cookies, so it's perfectly reasonable for me to say that I prefer chocolate-chip cookies, isn't it? I don't choose to prefer chocolate chip. It's not as if I could prefer peanut butter if I just put my mind to it. People might prefer the color red to the color green, or prefer cats to dogs, or prefer sneakers to loafers, and none of those preferences are a matter of choice. You like what you like. I guess the fact that some preferences can change during a person's life (as a kid I hated onions and now I like them) is what makes some suspicious of the word when applied to sexual orientation, but I still think that the idea of "choice" doesn't enter into it. I didn't make a choice to start liking onions; it just happened when I got older. I couldn't choose to start disliking them again. Am I making sense or just rambling? :-/ No, I think what you're saying makes perfect sense, murly. And I actually love this comparison--if people thought of "sexual preference" in the same way they thought of "cookie preference," then there wouldn't be this big to-do! I'm an oatmeal cookie lover, personally, and don't particularly like chocolate (I know, gasp), and find peanut-butter cookies personally a total turn-off. I have no problem, however, with other people liking peanut butter cookies-I don't think any less of them for it (okay, well, not much less ); I also have no problem with people thinking, genially, that I'm "weird" for preferring oatmeal to chocolate, as long as they let me have my oatmeal, and are still happy to be my friend. As Adam has said about sexuality, I don't get why its such a big deal, it shouldn't matter, its only one fact about me, it doesn't define me. |
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Post by stardust on Feb 22, 2011 14:52:24 GMT -5
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Post by midwifespal on Feb 22, 2011 14:56:12 GMT -5
But what word or words would better fit into a conversation or interview when Adam is discussing his sexuality? It seems to me, preference and lifestyle are being over analyzed by the gay and lesbian community. My preference is to be straight, but I didn't choose it. How would he phrase it without using either word, is my question? He says over and over again, "I am gay." That's about as blunt and right to the point as one can be. I think the more accepted word in the movement is "orientation" over preference. But I agree that it's silly. And I realize suddenly that I was maybe hedging against the wrong worry in my long post--I worried it would be seen as an attack on the gay rights movement, but it didn't occur to me that people might take it as criticism of Adam (lol-protective bunch  , so let me be clear--I personally like that Adam uses this language and am definitely not criticizing him for it! |
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Post by murly on Feb 22, 2011 15:01:30 GMT -5
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