If you have a 7 yr old who keeps running around and running around and you keep saying, "You're going to fall," and she falls you can do one of 2 things when you pick her up.
1. Tell her "I TOLD you you were going to fall!"
2. Pick her up, hug her, and tell her to be careful then drop it.
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The reason there are traffic jams at accident sites is often because many people cannot resist looking at others' misfortune then talking for the nex 300 miles about what probably happened and how it could have been avoided, all the time having no idea what really transpired. It's more or less a ploy for attention and a declaration that YOU would never be so careless or stupid to do the same thing.
Some people are holier than thou about other people and their actions, seldom realizing in the aftermath, they are part of the problem instead of part of the solution. The reason there are paps and "entertainment news" shows is because we feed on gossip and scandal.
We all make mistakes, if we are wise, and I think we are, we learn from them. It is bad enough to have it all rehashed by strangers but is unforgivable to have it regurgitated for days by friends and acquaintances. If you fell on a banana peel at your class reunion, wouldn't it be easier on you if it was just dropped without advice on how to avoid the next banana peel or a sympathetic story about every person who had ever fallen on a banana peel?
Even when we mean well, sometimes silence is golden
There are times when the ostrich's habit of sticking his head in the sand is not a bad protocol. When he pulls his head out everything is back to normal and that is good.
By the way, 2 fuck-ups in 2 years isn't too bad, right? I wish my batting average was that good.
loved your words of wisdom 
